Because you owe it to nobody to fit into what they think a woman should look like, be like, or like.
Molds are for cakes.
So many brides in India get married in a system that still follows the appalling practice of dowry. After the ‘kanyadaan’, there is a ‘vidai/bidai’ ceremony where the bride leaves behind her maternal home to take the husband’s home as her own. But there is no ritual where the groom does the same. The bride’s family also supports the wedding expenses.
Though times are changing now, but I was recently quite surprised to find out that these are fairly common practices in both rural and urban India.
I don’t think either bride or groom should be subject to any of these processes, but it’s amusing to think of a role reversal.
2016 has been a rather dismal year for most of us, and we’re all going to need some stick-figure happiness on our desks next year! Introducing the new and improved version of The Tap’s desktop calendar, now with enough space to mark important dates and doodle all over it! Buy it at: https://thetap.myshopify.com/products/the-taps-2017-desktop-calendar
Amma is prepared in unexpected situations. Even demonetisation.