It baffles me that people will always take out time and effort to tell you how fat or thin or skinny or dark or something or the other you look. We’re a completely obsessed society. That people respond to you based on your physical appearance is something we’ve unfortunately ‘normalized’ and accepted. From the playground to the corporate world, it seems like there are plenty of opportunities for these predators… Who might well be completely unaware. All these years I seem to have been deaf to these comments… You only notice what you experience perhaps. I talked about this with a friend who said “Don’t worry, you’re gorgeous” and I wanted to say hey I’m not asking for validation. I’m not asking for confirmation that I’ve passed in some sort of test. I think we just need to stand up and say that this is not okay to people who make unthinking, inconsiderate, inane comments.
Over the last couple of years I’ve piled on the pounds due to various health issues, and evidently so. I’ve had a wide range of reactions to my weight gain – from being asked I have any “good news” to people asking if I were guilty that I ate a solid, filling dinner. And strangely, people wait for you to respond, like you’re supposed to make some apology. I find it quite fascinating that people’s perceptions change so much when your physical appearance does. So here’s a handy guide for those who’ve been told they’re too fat or dark or skinny or a gazillion other things that everybody else has a problem with.